Turning Your Judgments Into A Point Of Power

Turning Your Judgments Into A Point Of Power

Quote Of The Day:


“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.” ― Roy T. Bennett

“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.”
― Roy T. Bennett

 

Turning Your Judgements Into A Point Of Power

How aware are you of judgments that you are making?

Judgment about your environment, what someone may be thinking about you, potential – and at this point completely imagined – confrontations, and also little things like what you see from by taking a quick glance, or what you thought you heard as you walked by people engrossed in conversation.

All of these things – these judgments –  affect our days greatly but are often completely untrue or at least somewhat obscured by our moods, our physical ability to hear, our ingrained biases, and beliefs.

Mindful awareness, on the other hand, allows you to first become aware of any judgments you are making, and second to examine them carefully to evaluate their truth at any given moment.


For example, loud neighbors are annoying you; as you become aware of that annoyance you can also notice that you are making judgments about those neighbors, thinking that they are ungrateful or bad-mannered. However, as you listen to your own responses, and stop to breathe, you may recognize the laughter of children within that noise. You may recognize the fact that you have never actually told them that running through their home makes a lot of noise in your apartment. You may also recognize that you are not actually angry at them, but at some other disturbance beforehand, and they are just the ones you are focusing on right now.

No matter which one of these truths or any others, you may find when examining your thoughts, the awareness of your thought-response to any outside action can allow you to take a different approach – even if that means taking action, rather than sitting and listening to what has disturbed you in the first place.

Becoming aware of sudden judgments that you may be making throughout the day, gives you a point of power, a place where you can turn an instantaneous maybe even potentially negative reaction into one that puts you control.

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19 Comments

  1. You really hit home with me when you said, “you are not actually angry at them, but at some other disturbance beforehand.” I find that to be the truth for most instances when someone seems unusually upset over something seemingly insignificant or small. It may seem they are irrational or flipping out over nothing, but really there is something deeper or totally unrelated tripping it. We should all take a step back and uncover what we’re really upset about before lashing out at others.

    I have a few people who need to read this post! Ha!

    1. Author

      yes, we absolutely should, that would keep many of us out of a lot of trouble! I am glad that you enjoyed this post. Many blessings! 

  2. This is really true. I think we are very quick to judge before thinking. For instance, my boyfriend came back home from work and seemed really irritated, and of course this led into an argument between both of us. But then I stopped to think for a second and thought to myself, why did I judge so quickly and think that he was mad at me? And then I realized that there must be a reason behind why he was feeling like this. After this realization, I calmed down and tried to find out the reason behind his current state. Then he calmed down and we talked about it. Anyway the moral of the story is exactly about what you wrote…maybe someone is having a bad day, so we should not be quick to judge. 

    1. Author

      I am glad that you took the time to stop and reassess the situation! A lot of relationship quarrels could be simply avoided by not jumping to conclusions based on judgments we are making – sometimes even without being aware of them! I am glad that you are such a thoughtful person, your boyfriend is blessed to have you!

      Many blessings! 

  3. This is very interesting and so very true! I agree that we are quick to jump to judgment. Instead stepping back and using our head first. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Everything you wrote is true. I am guilty of judging people sometimes, especially if they annoy me. Our next door neighbor’s son is a big brat, but when I realized that he is only seeking attention from his parents who are not always home, then I think his actions are justified. He just needs more love from his parents and their presence too.

    1. Author

      we are all guilty of that. I am glad that you took the time to understand your neighbor’s son. Maybe you can be that little bit of light in his life, now that you see it through compassionate eyes. Blessings!

  5. Great post very wise and important. I think points of powers are very important to highlight

  6. There is so much food for thought here. Deffo one to take time and reflect for sure. Fab post thank you x

  7. Because of my kids, I try to not judge quickly. I try to understand first. But yes sometimes it’s hard to not shoot first then think later.

    1. Author

      yes, with kids this is especially important. Your children are blessed to have such a thoughtful parent. Blessings!

  8. This was such an amazing article to read! Speaking about loud neighbors, I have to deal with that every day and sometimes is really difficult to focus on anything else except noise what that gets out of hand and never stops.

    1. Author

      yeah, I hear you. One of my dogs has a very hard time with one of the neighbors making noise, she gets scared, and when she is scared she barks. During these times, it becomes really hard to remember not to judge. There is no reason not to take any action toward neighbors who are out of control. It can be done in a loving and compassionate way, but sometimes it must be done. Blessings!

  9. I think of that every time a negative emotion enters my body. You are so right: The outer world is definitely a reflection of our inner one. What is very cool as well when you experience those inner negative thoughts, is that you always can choose a different path. I find that very reassuring.

    1. Author

      I am glad that you found that reassuring. It was one of the biggest aha moments when first starting to work with mindfulness, that I am in a lot more control than I thought I was before. Very empowering! Blessings!

  10. We admit that people are really judgement because of their different perspective of lives but I’am always look to the positive side that can me help to improve and learn more things.

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